A: For me, fun and pleasure are intertwined. As a Taurus I'm very tactile and love the simple pleasures — grass between my toes, sun on my skin, leather in my hands, and of course that electricity and intimacy of skin against skin.
The pleasure two men can share is extraordinary. There's the curiosity of getting to know each other over a drink, then the first touch — a hand on the back of my neck, a mouth on mine — and the inhibitions start to drop. Clothes come off slowly. I love the moment of first being naked together, bodies responding to one another, warm, hard, nothing between us. The feeling of giving myself over fully and mating with my man — his weight on me, legs spread as I pull him in, feeling him find his way in, sink deep and settle. As a bottom, there's no better feeling than knowing my man is lost in me, taking what he needs, both of us right where we want to be.
A: Simple and grounded: gym, leatherwork, coffee, my dog, and time with the people I love. I don't put life on hold anymore. I'd rather enjoy it now, fully and without shame, and that's the energy I bring to every man I meet.
A: I'd tell you I'm a farm boy from Ireland who's been in LA sixteen years, and that my old dog still runs the house. Then I'd turn it around, because I'd rather hear about you: what brought you here, and what you never tell anyone. That's usually where the real night starts.
A: I weight-train or stretch most days, eat high-protein and fairly low-carb, and believe motion is lotion, especially living with MS. I cycle when I can, but the best cardio of all is bedroom play: opening up, sweating together, and leaving with body and mind both taken care of.
A: Empathy, loyalty, good judgment and drive. I'm a patient listener. I notice what makes a man nervous and what makes him melt. I take pride in my work and in showing up for the people who matter to me.
A: Leatherwork. I started with wallets, bags and bracelets, and now I design gear for men. My pieces are masculine but elegant and a little delicate, made to be worn and enjoyed rather than hidden. I think gear should make you feel good in your own skin. Ask me about it. I might even bring a piece.
A: I have no shame around pleasure, and I won't bring any into the room. Whatever you want, whether tender, vanilla or full pig, you can ask for it out loud. I'm genuine, I'm drawn to the person underneath, and I love the bond that comes from letting go together.
A: Making it safe to let go. Many of my favourite men have never quite let themselves have this. Some are married or straight-curious first-timers. Some have ADHD and a mind that rarely switches off. Others live with a disability or illness, or with a body that's changed after cancer or a stroke. I went through paralysis and years of rehab myself, so I know what it's like to feel at odds with your own body. With me there's no rush and no judgment, just pleasure at your pace, whether that's tender or piggy.
A: A bit of both. I love the comfort of home: coffee, my dog, and the quiet. I've travelled widely and still love new places and cultures. These days I keep my work here in LA, where I've lived for sixteen years, so I'm easy to see and always at my best when we meet.
A: I take care of myself so I can show up fully. I train most days, eat well, and stay on top of my health. Some days are harder than others with MS, but I always get up and keep going. With every man I meet, I pay attention to what he likes, what makes him nervous, and what makes him melt.
A: My greatest life experiences haven't been easy. Being temporarily paralysed, diagnosed with MS, and spending years in rehab shifted my whole perspective and taught me gratitude and resilience. Losing my older brother taught me how precious life is. I've turned hardship into strength, physically and mentally, and it's why I meet every man with patience and zero judgment. I know what it's like when your body doesn't feel like your own.
A: I'm a rare mix. I'm a warm, tactile Irish farm boy who's just as happy talking over a drink as being properly used behind closed doors. I can go from tender to full pig without a flicker of judgment, and I make my own leather gear, so ask me about it. Most of all, people tell me they feel at ease with me. That ease is where the best release comes from.
A: That I'm comfortable in my own skin and can help other men feel the same. I have no shame around pleasure. It's healthy, human and necessary. There's something special about watching a guy relax and realise he's allowed to want what he wants.
A: Love: friends, family and romantic. Pleasure: affection, intimacy and touch. Personal growth. My farm-boy roots. My old dog. And leather in my hands, which keeps me grounded.