A: Classic leather and BDSM. Whips. Chains. Dungeons. I like kink that takes skill. Throwing a bullwhip. Tying an elaborate harness. Ramping up the pain slowly so the endorphins build up and the bottom can take more than he ever thought possible.
A: Intelligence, curiosity, high standards, thirst for growth.
A: I love to travel, and would like to do it more. Lately I've been traveling two or three times a year, most frequently to California (Los Angeles and my home town of San Francisco). New York is just a bus ride away and I go there pretty frequently too. I can also be found at Cape Cod once per summer. I would like to travel outside the US a lot more-- my favorite places I have been so far are Berlin and Montevideo. I love cities and it's a personal goal of mine to see as many of the great cities of the world as possible.
A: Books, music, spirituality, good conversation, and a black cat.
A: I am completely sober. I want you to be sober when we play, too.
A: I have been told I am charismatic and intimidating. Although at 5'9" and 165 lbs I am hardly a big guy, people constantly remark that they wouldn't want to get on my bad side or run into me in a dark ally. All this in spite of the fact that I am relatively polite and soft-spoken with most people! Maybe it's the leather, the tattoos, and my intense stare.
Having more than a decade of experience in BDSM and kink, both personally and professionally, gives me an edge. As a native San Franciscan, I grew up just up the hill from the Castro and have been aware of leather culture all my life. I took to the fetish scene like a fish to water as soon as I was legally able (I literally went to my first play party on my 18th birthday). I worked for kinky businesses until I became an independent pro dom, and socialized, dated and hooked up almost exclusively within the scene. It's not just my lifestyle, it's my whole life.
A: I eat healthy, home-cooked meals most of the time. I'm the cook-- as a native Californian, cooking and being a foodie is actually a bit of a macho thing for me. My favorite cuisines are Japanese, Mexican, Thai and Chinese, in that order. I focus on Japanese cooking because I find I enjoy it the most.
As far as fitness, I lift weights, do yoga, and walk most places. I am also getting into running. I try to exercise daily. I do keep it natural-- no 'roids here. Going dancing with my wife and our goth friends is another passion and another physical activity I enjoy. I love industrial beats that get me sweating.
A: As a pro dom who is married to a dominatrix (she is submissive to me), I have a lot of leisure time. I use it well to work out, do yoga, read, make music and art, write, go dancing, travel, and explore. My primary interests are occultism/esotericism, art, film, music, politics, history, literature, and, of course, BDSM. I love to learn and improve myself. Always learning, always growing, and always trying to cram as much depth, pleasure and adventure into life as I can!
That said, I am also completely sober and have been for 14 years. My hedonism is responsible and controlled.