A: Being a gerontophile is a vicarious lifestyle. I get taught a lot from people with lived experience. Many guys I met on here in particular have some of the best attitudes I want to learn more from and be about. The patterns to be recognized and basic fundamentals to operate by to make the best of each connection/experience. A lot of things go just plain unlearned by a so many too. Don't hit the plateau and coast. Take the chance and engage. Psychedelics and "but stuff" have some very simple principles in common. "Open up" and "Let go". Through seggs or lack of, thats all it is.
I have this teacher who trained me to take big ones. He was patient and open-minded enforced his own set of boundaries without anxiety or insecurity. I know next to nothing about the guy himself but every time we link is about applying what I've learned to up the bar and half the time we do. We can all have that guy in our lives, past or even future. I wanna be yours, you mine or both. Point and shoot. Shiis not that complicated.
A: What we do on here is a spiritual communion, sorry but it's always that. I'm no spirit guide but even atheists know the difference between jacking and the unforgettable. We need this as a species and it shows in everything we do. The "John meets Joe" story will only get you so far and there's always gonna be more bs to deal with that way.
Lets do the synchronize, energy channels agape and blast tf off! That Thai-chi shii where no movement is wasted and everything is infinitely more pleasurable. I'll take the lead, rev you all the way up and extract everything you have to give until your heaving, sweaty and raaaaaan tf thru.
I made a guy blow from 1 stroke before, that doesn't even MAKE SENSE! It was all connection and alignment. Align on something healthy and sustainable. Do it right, not some shut down Folsom Gulch escape. I'm not some fake life-coach/burner. We are here for medicine. Who knows the difference?
A: A private chat with a rent.men employee? I'd thank you for the service and swap stories. I bet theres a TON of stories on the other end of this site.
This one time I got into it with customer service here. Someone called me up once and I was dumber then so didn't ask for much info on him. When I arrived the vibe was off and I knew it wasn't going to work (one of maybe 4 times in several years). After chatting for a bit over a beer I apologized and said best of luck on your search. Whether it was my responsibility to communicate his needs or mine he left me a 1 star review without any service or compensation being exchanged. I plead my case but the rent.men employee basically left it at that.
Not being able to say "no" to someone I only just met on this site is kind of a huge deal. I didn't care about the client, rent.men let me down by not protecting me with the main thing we as workers need to be safe and healthy on here. That was a long time ago and honestly I've had a million more beautiful experiences on here to more than compensate looking back. I hope it was a fluke and no other workers here have been punished for exercising their right to just say "no". Cheers bro
A: Keeping the ancient art of hitting on people in public alive. Every 20 or so times it works every time. Some of these straight daddies reeeeeeeally need to hear how hot they are. Especially the homophobes. Nothing beats that look when someone is offended for a sec and then smiles at you.
I've met SEVERAL gorgeous men that way that gave up on finding compatibility and haven't hooked up in over a decade. Nothing purer to feed the soul than that kind of healing. Then the added bonus of getting to train them (my favorite). Hit on foos!!
A: I'm big on conflict resolution. Not that it plays a huge role on here usually but if we are talking regulars it sure doesn't hurt to have. My big friggin ego is a focus of mine in general. Ya gotta check it!
On a similar note I find a lot of guys on here like to play nice until you do or say one thing they don't like and then it's like "Holy ****...". Nothing worse in this industry and it for sure goes both ways but I am more than happy to find out who is gonna be that guy before meeting. Hence me being a big ol' tig ol' screener.
A: ****ing is good. Handball and biking are my self-care. Nerdy at my core. Manga and anime JJK is my fav current and FLCL is my all-time goat. Death Stranding 2 had me in a chokehold this year. I wanna write more. I used to perform a lot of spoken word. Half-decent freestyle rapper (pretty much just when doing chores around the house). Hope someday to build the nerve to be that obnoxious-ass guy that freestyle raps/sings wherever he goes. I have a hunch that was way more of a thing before industrialization/cities, like reading out loud was.
Every person I jokingly ask (including tech friends) if they think we should nuke our data centers and start over with what we know say "duh". Breaking free from my tech is an ever-evolving battle but there's some obvious perks here and there.
A: I got jokes. Used to be debilitatingly shy, not anymore. Main personal goal is to apply humor to conflict more. It's no secret that it's the best medicine bordering on pure fuggin magic when coupled with respect. You can get anything you want with a well-placed joke.
A: Travel is everything. My Nostradamus prediction is the 2030's and beyond may be rough for the USA in particular. Would be dope to not turn 40 in the states so I am all about maintaining my European connections with hopes of having a solid community when I find my opening to move. A logical and achievable goal imo. Def got love for my country though. NoLa, ATL and D.C. are top of my list domestically. Fuck it Dallas too! I'm a Mexican citizen too (easily my favorite culture).
A: I'm not for everyone. I like older 55+ conservative men (big brown eyes absolutely kill me). I love teaching them about *** and how the gay community works where I'm from. Experiencing everything new through them and finding new layers to these experiences in the process. I'm sensitive and can be delicate like anyone else. When the opposites attract I'll be ready and willing to passionately implode into each other.
A: All the times something went terribly wrong while traveling. Getting in a fight with a homeless dude in the Boston rain and immediately afterwards becoming homies. Getting searched by Hong Kong PD for tagging when I knew I had something on me that would have me in jail still today (somehow let off with a warning). My friends last shows before their bands split up. The saddest/scariest exercises in my life have become springs of incredibly rich and seemingly never-ending positive energies.
A: Health, Bike, 1-1 1/2 Homies, GG Handball Courts and singers that break their voice (27 Club members)/Oldies.
A: I look within a lot. Very in touch with my inner-butthead. Not threatened by people who think differently. I value people within the mob mentality as much as the free-thinkers. We are all entitled to be wrong and wrong we will be!
A: Daddies. I friggin LOVE yall. Zero compromise 55+. I'm nothing new but I'm a raw individual in a gay community in which everyone is constantly looking for permission to think their own thoughts. My "not asking, I'm telling you" energy goes far with most men. That being said I'm a decent listener.
A: Oofe! I do a lot of pre-made stuff from the organic grocery store. $10 organic chicken pot pies?? Yes. Please. You wanna see me go full berserker frenzy-top? Sit me down for a Chinese hot pot with all the fishy fixens. idk what TF they put in that shit!!
Workout is a bike ride and/or handball session early in the week. Gym later in the week. My metabolism dictates shorter workouts to conserve calories for any gains my bichass can muster. Never been into gym bods much, more into the thicc natural look in general but I know what y'all daddies like so we gonna hit it harder.
A: I get the difference between how seggs works and how people work. Seggs and whats seggs-y is kinda dumb and thats okay. Past superficial elements there needs to be an unknown in the bedroom. A complete understanding of the inner-workings is a people thing, not for seggs. It's hard to trust that way but I do what I can to express my authenticity to compensate. When I click very little is a conscious action and nothing is known.
A: A near unshakable center reinforced by a highly empathetic and ever-changing worldview. I'm about some hippie bs. Channels and positivity. Not sexy stuff imo but it's the reality we live in. Empathy opens you up to tremendous amounts of power and extinguishes most fears.